Without wanting to enter any debate, it has been shown that the stimuli that can cause orgasm in people with penis and people with vagina, and the duration or frequency of this in both sexes, are different. But that doesn't mean one it's better or worse than others. In fact, the sensation of pleasure it produces is exactly the same, and the mechanisms at the brain and motor level that are activated when we climax are also practically the same.

Therefore, experts say that the fact of enjoying more or less sex depends more on our relationships or individual differences/preferences, than on a gender issue. However, knowing these differences can give us clues to improve our relationships and, incidentally, get to know our own body a little better. In this post we summarize some of the differences that have been observed from various studies. Intrigued? Well, keep reading!

Duration. Proven: People-with-penis orgasms are shorter. On average, they last between 3 and 10 seconds, while those of people-with-vagina can last up to 20 seconds, or more ...

Frequency. People-with-penis have been found to orgasm in 75% of penetrative sex versus 69% of people-with-vagina who do so during intercourse. In addition, vaginas, more frequently, to resort to 'extra aids' such as manual or oral stimulation of the clitoris or other areas of the body.

Stimulation In general. People-with-penis usually need direct physical visual and genital stimulation to achieve it, while people-with-vagina can achieve it more easily by stimulating other erogenous zones (chest, lips, ear, neck ...), suggestive conversations or images.

Excitement. It is more difficult for people-with-vagina to get excited and the mechanisms are more subtle. People-with-penis can be excited with the imagination, but always related to sexual images or fantasies. On the other hand, people-with-vagina can generate fantasies that not only involve sexual aspects, because of a greater receptivity to the exploration of pleasure through other senses.

Repetition. People-with-vagina can “get back on track” in less time. Therefore, they have a greater facility to experience different orgasms in succession. In contrast, after orgasm, people-with-penis enter a pause phase called the "refractory period", since they need a few minutes to recover before having an erection and ejaculation again. This fatigue is considered a natural response -at least from an evolutionary point of view- to preserve the species, which allows them time to produce sperm and copulate again with energy in future encounters.

Purpose. People-with-penis orgasms are usually accompanied by ejaculation, so it is closely related to a reproductive function. In contrast, People-with-vagina can experience orgasms without the need for copulation and vice versa: having penetrative sex or being inseminated without experiencing orgasms. In fact, the clitoris is an organ whose only function - known - is to provide pleasure.

Pleasure. This point is the most equitable. Apparently, at the brain level, and during the stage of excitement and stimulation, different areas of the brain are activated in individuals. But at the moment of climax, in both cases the heart rate and the respiratory rate accelerate, and the sensation of pleasure caused by the rhythmic and successive muscle contractions is similar for everyone, regardless of the type of relationships or sexual preferences. A study mentioned in the book "Discovering Human Sexuality" by neuroscientist Simon LeVay and other authors, asked different people to try to describe in words the sensation that orgasm gives them and the 70 experts who examined them concluded that it was not possible to distinguish clearly the gender of the person describing them.

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